You Know I Had To Write About It

The passing of Whitney Houston has brought such sadness to me. Now, I know this sadness should be more because of the passing of such a gifted daughter, but unfortunately, it is more due to the reaction of people and the media who choose to focus more on the more trying times and the negativity of her life than her legacy.

As a close friend to the wife and one of Bobby’s group members, as an individual who has stood by others who have battled with addiction and as an individual who has worked in and has always been around the entertainment industry I will say this.

Before ridiculing Bobby or any individual for that matter, know the person of the individual. Bobby, off stage, is one of the sweetest, kindest individuals who has overcome his own demons and struggles and has been sober and out of trouble for quite some time now. It amazes me how others can praise their celebrities who have overcome their demons and struggles but not other celebrities because the media and others choose to continuously keep before us who these celebrities were, even if it isn’t who they are now. He has also in the past eight months lost his mother, his father and his ex-wife. His ex-wife whom he was reported and seen having dinner with just a week or so ago accompanied by their daughter. Maybe, because we always have to have an answer to why, is why people are choosing to attack and place blame on him as well as come to conclusions and knit pick everything he has done in the past week. Everybody grieves differently, some stay busy, some turn to depression, and some go into denial and etc. Not to mention, no one knows the weight of what he might be carrying during this time. No one knows what his conversations have consisted of with the Lord or with his daughter. Please, cut the man some slack and declare the Word over him, declare peace, declare wisdom on how to handle and deal with his daughter, etc.

As for addiction or any situation we get ourselves into that somehow delays us, destroys us or is outside of God’s will for us. If Jehovah Himself cannot force us to change, get right or get out of it because of this thing called free will, then what makes us think that any human can force another human to do something or get out of it. Every single one of us has a choice, no matter what our circumstance, to either stay in or get out, to either seek help or attempt to deal with it on our own. Sadly, most of us treat time as a luxury and something that will always be there for us so we procrastinate in making the changes we need to.

Lastly, if you have never been in or around the entertainment industry then I can see why you would believe everything the media throws at you. But having dated and been around people in the industry the truth is, especially when it comes to artists, there are a group of people hired to package the artist so their product can sell and not always is the packaging portrayed the portrayal of the individual. As for the media, they have the power to show you what they want to show you and put in your ear what they want you to hear which is why one must be cautious as to what they let hit their spirit and discern what is being laid before them.


As we move forward from this day, which, outside of the bit of drama created, was an amazing testament to not only Whitney’s legacy, but her relationship with God, this day that God was exalted on national TV to an audience of probably more who aren’t in relationship with Him than those who are I ask…

To my fellow believers, please, rather than assist gossip, judgment and hate, let’s be an example of prayer, compassion and love. Let’s mirror more His Nature, Character and Authority rather than the world. After all, as believers, no matter what we’ve done, when we come to Him and we repent, that thing is under the blood and no longer remembered by the God we serve, no matter how many times we’ve done it. So if He has forgotten about it for you or someone else then why are you still talking about it and assisting in keeping it alive. 1 John 4:20&21 says it best. If you say you love God and hate your brother, you are a liar, for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God MUST love his brother. As believers, this is our hour, our responsibility, and our mandate. Let’s focus less on things and start focusing back on souls and people. I can't speak for all of us but I know I have felt the weight of responsibility this past week as it pertains to what we are called to do.

As for the non-believer, as I can’t hold you to our standards, if you can honestly tell me that you live a perfect life without mistakes, without choices or decisions made that you are not ashamed of and without skeletons in your own closet, then please, by all means play God and judge, but if you can’t honestly tell me these things, then leave the judging to God.

To all, let’s be change and stop feeding into mess by passing junk along. These are still real people, with real hearts and emotions, who have suffered a real loss. Instead of speaking negativity and death to that which is still living let’s all choose to speak restoration, reconciliation and life.