Fabulous & Loving God Can Exist

Why is it that in the majority of churches people have the mentality that the majority of women, of any age, who are fabulous, only attend church to seek after
man? It is as if the mentality is that if you look a certain way, wear certain clothes and have a nice figure the only possible reason you would
be at church is to attempt to hook a man. Are we serious?

I sometimes wonder if women put on others their insecurities or the part of them that hasn’t changed. Either because they haven’t wanted to
change, allowed themselves to change or just don’t know how to change.

Insert a personal entry from my journal from earlier this year.

“Today was filled with a lot of questions, doubting, and yes, even a little complaining. And let’s not forget a whole lot of water works. After
doing all I know not to do I shut everything down and just sat. I reached for my Kathryn Kuhlman book that the Lord has had me studying from. In the midst of reading another testimony I just broke before God, pleading with Him to look at my heart. Man looks at the outer appearance but God looks at the heart. I wanted Him to feel and know what I was and have been feeling since He placed me on consecration. That this isn’t about having a mate, the car, the house, the finer things in life but it was truly about Him and His will. About the people who need to know Him. Those who need to have an encounter with Him or an experience. There is something about my heart that is for others. It always has been, but not with as much compassion as it is now. There is such a desire to see change in people’s lives and the body as a whole. Such a desire to see celebrity-ism, fanaticism and entertainment removed from where He dwells and replaced with His authenticity. I desire to become more acquainted with the Anointing on my life and how to move in it. And I don’t mean at church. I mean everywhere. I desire to be so dead to self that it can't be recognized where I end and He begins. This is ALL I have. It is IN Him that I am at
my best. It is THIS that satisfies me and keeps me breathing. Without Him I am nothing but with Him I am everything. Not to mention, I don’t have a choice. I HAVE to do this. Whether people want me to or not, whether they feel I should or not. So I trust Him to see what He started within me through till completion. Nothing else matters to me but being in His will, helping those who are less fortunate, giving to those who have lost heart a reason to love, believe and hope again. This really isn’t about me and I trust God to do this with me…Not Man!”

Now don’t get me wrong. There are those women, of all varieties, that there only purpose in church, even in the world, is to seek out man. But let's make it clear. Not every fabulous gal, nor I, am one of them. Just because others may not see some of us physically with someone it doesn't mean that person doesn't exist. And, even if they don't exist, this entry should prove that being Fabulous and about God's business does.

Some of us realize that some men in the church are just playas with an Anointing. LoL! We also realize that what you see, most times, is not what you get. That the function and the person of an individual are different. You are setting yourself up daughter if you attend church, or any gathering, to seek a man. For should you trap him, you will eventually face the reality of the above, and it may turn out to be different than what you thought. An actor for example, a singer, what people see on stage is not always what the woman deals with behind closed doors. The woman behind closed doors deals with the person of the man. She deals with his moods, strengths and weaknesses. His habits and vulnerabilities. Some that may be more flattering than others. She deals with the less flashy side of him. The man on stage and the man off stage are not the same and therefore should not be treated the same. And if not with the one you came out of, the one you have the grace for, you will struggle.

Where most women miss it is in this. The women desire to assist the man’s function because it brings open reward, when in actuality she should be assisting the man so he can function and let God reward her. Furthermore, the woman who realizes this isn’t looking for her man because she understands that when God created her mate, she was created in him. Therefore her man has been carrying her and nothing will work or fulfill him until he finds her. And she knows when he does find her it won’t be because she manipulated or deceived him or did it with her own works. It will be because God brings her to him and the fruit will be evident. She will be able to tap into the grace that he has been given.

Those of us whose hearts are after God aren't sitting in a service, scoping the crowd, marking our territory, naming and claiming, or lying on God. We are seeking God regarding our walk, purpose and assignment and in the midst of this, at the appointed time, know He will bring us to him and him to us and join us.

The season has come to stop babysitting insecurities. To stop lying on our women and to our women (as well as our men) and really teach truth, whether it is desirable to hear or not. And it is time for those of us with understanding to set and raise the standard. Daughter, if this is you, I say unto you, arise!